Acknowledge the Love That Was There

We seldom notice the love that was present during painful divorce or breakups. Once two people fall in love, the love is there. Once the divorce or breakup happens, it

The Single-Parenting Perspective: The Case for Keeping Kids’ Lives Consistent

“She’s a teenager–she’ll get over it.” Actual stellar advice spoken aloud to my mom when my parents separated. Besides the obvious uncaring nature of the insensitive comment, it’s completely false. No shortage of research about children supports the integral importance of parental stability in the life of children. Parenting is

You Made It! – Post-divorce Nirvana

Divorce is Not the End? Pippin: I didn't think it would end this way. Gandalf: End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path, one that we all must take. The grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass, and then you

How Often Can My Parenting Plan Be Revised?

In Illinois, during a divorce, couples with children enter into a parenting plan. Before 2016, this document would be referred to as a custody agreement; however, an Illinois law was

How Do I Petition for a Change in Child Support?

What does child support mean for your family? Is it something you feel was correctly determined or do you believe you deserve more or owe less? If you are looking for an increase or decrease, it is certainly possible, but it does require some legal intervention. In Illinois, during the

Special Concerns for Divorces Involving Kids with Special Needs

Divorce is hard for almost all children. It can be traumatic and confusing in even the best of circumstances. But for children with special needs, divorce can be even more difficult. And for the parents of special needs children, divorce requires strategizing to make sure that arrangements are made to

Surviving The Holidays During Divorce

Holidays are typically the time that families get together and enjoy each other’s company. Vacation time is abundant and adults and children are available to spend quality time together…more

5 Ways To Infuse Peace Into Your Life During & After Divorce

Our daily life is full of challenges and while the idea of finding inner peace might seem like an unrealistic goal in your current situation, I’m here to tell you that it is possible and it’s not as difficult as you think. Molehills are NOT mountains. It does take a

10 Powerful Discovery Questions to Help You Move on to a New Self and Identity

10 Powerful Discovery Questions to Help Me Move on to a New Self and Identity I’ve moved on?  Really?  Moved on to what?  Moved on to where?  How have you moved on?  What resources did you use to move on?  Where are you now from your “move on” point? Moving